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Sex takes 3 to 13 minutes, study says

If you have to describe sex by discussing how long it takes there is something wrong with you, or should I say that your relationship is in trouble.

Ok, I know that this is not the point of the article but it ties into a post from early March called A Sexually Incompatible Marriage which discussed how some marriages are being impacted by differing ideas on what a good sex life should entail.

Anyway, here is a snippet of information from the article about the study.
NEW YORK (AP) -- Maybe men had it right all along: It doesn't take long to satisfy a woman in bed.

A survey of sex therapists concluded the optimal amount of time for sexual intercourse was 3 to 13 minutes. The findings, to be published in the May issue of the Journal of Sexual Medicine, strike at the notion that endurance is the key to a great sex life.

If that sounds like good news to you, don't cheer too loudly. The time does not count foreplay, and the therapists did rate sexual intercourse that lasts from 1 to 2 minutes as "too short."

Researcher Eric Corty said he hoped to ease the minds of those who believe "more of something good is better, and if you really want to satisfy your partner, you should last forever."

The questions were not gender-specific, said Corty. But he said prior research has shown men and women want foreplay and sexual intercourse to last longer.

Dr. Irwin Goldstein, editor of the Journal of Sexual Medicine, cited a four-week study of 1,500 couples in 2005 that found the median time for sexual intercourse was 7.3 minutes. (Women in the study were armed with stopwatches.)

It's difficult for both older men and young men to make sexual intercourse last much longer, said Marianne Brandon, a clinical psychologist and director of Wellminds Wellbodies in Annapolis, Maryland.

I want to comment on one more line "It's difficult for both older men and young men to make sexual intercourse last much longer"

Is it just me or is that line exceptionally vague. Older men and younger men have trouble making things last longer. So at what age do we men hit the sweet spot? How old or how young do you need to be to fall in the difficulty category. Inquiring minds want to know.

Comments

Right Truth said…
Wow, 3 - 13 minutes? That obviously doesn't count the foreplay, ha. Wham, Bamb, thank you mam.

Debbie Hamilton
Right Truth
Anonymous said…
Awe, cmon. How much better can you have expected to perform if the "women were armed with stopwatches"? Sheez. Not like there's pressure or anything. :-)
Michael said…
Well, 3 minutes is about right, when you need to synchornize the naps of a 5 yr old, a 2 yr old, and a newborn.

13 minutes though? That would be paradise!

Although I'll tell you something that might have some bearing on this: after nursing the baby, snuggling the 2 yr old, and chasing the 5 yr old, my wife does NOT want to hear about sex!
Anonymous said…
I always put my stopwatch aside....

Men reach their peak when know that the correct answer to "Does this make me look fat?" Is "You look beautiful tonight." Some men stay at that peak forever. And forever is a long time.
Jack Steiner said…
Debbie,

Who needs foreplay. ;)

JW,

Nah, no pressure at all.

Michael,

Just remind her that her great grandmother went back to work in the fields a mere two hours after giving birth. It should create some dialogue.

Men reach their peak when know that the correct answer to "Does this make me look fat?

The correct answer is something like "you have enough fabric to make drapes for the local theater."

And now duck.