Sometimes You Just Know

“I no longer believed in the idea of soul mates, or love at first sight. But I was beginning to believe that a very few times in your life, if you were lucky, you might meet someone who was exactly right for you. Not because he was perfect, or because you were, but because your combined flaws were arranged in a way that allowed two separate beings to hinge together.”
― Lisa Kleypas, Blue-Eyed Devil

“The meeting of two personalities is like the contact of two chemical substances: if there is any reaction, both are transformed.”
― C.G. Jung

“You can talk with someone for years, everyday, and still, it won't mean as much as what you can have when you sit in front of someone, not saying a word, yet you feel that person with your heart, you feel like you have known the person for forever.... connections are made with the heart, not the tongue.”
― C. JoyBell C.

“We’re all seeking that special person who is right for us. But if you’ve been through enough relationships, you begin to suspect there’s no right person, just different flavors of wrong. Why is this? Because you yourself are wrong in some way, and you seek out partners who are wrong in some complementary way. But it takes a lot of living to grow fully into your own wrongness. And it isn’t until you finally run up against your deepest demons, your unsolvable problems—the ones that make you truly who you are—that we’re ready to find a lifelong mate. Only then do you finally know what you’re looking for. You’re looking for the wrong person. But not just any wrong person: the right wrong person—someone you lovingly gaze upon and think, “This is the problem I want to have.”

I will find that special person who is wrong for me in just the right way.

Let our scars fall in love.”
― Andrew Boyd

“Well, it seems to me that the best relationships - the ones that last - are frequently the ones that are rooted in friendship. You know, one day you look at the person and you see something more than you did the night before. Like a switch has been flicked somewhere. And the person who was just a friend is... suddenly the only person you can ever imagine yourself with.”
― Gillian Anderson

“Come sleep with me: We won't make Love,Love will make us.”
― Julio Cortázar

“Lots of things can be fixed. Things can be fixed. But many times, relationships between people cannot be fixed, because they should not be fixed. You're aboard a ship setting sail, and the other person has joined the inland circus, or is boarding a different ship, and you just can't be with each other anymore. Because you shouldn't be.”
― C. JoyBell C.

“I love you without knowing how, or when, or from where. I love you simply, without problems or pride: I love you in this way because I do not know any other way of loving but this, in which there is no I or you, so intimate that your hand upon my chest is my hand, so intimate that when I fall asleep your eyes close.”
― Pablo Neruda, 100 Love Sonnets

“Tonight I can write the saddest lines
I loved her, and sometimes she loved me too.”
― Pablo Neruda, Twenty Love Poems and a Song of Despair

“so I wait for you like a lonely house
till you will see me again and live in me.
Till then my windows ache.”
― Pablo Neruda, 100 Love Sonnets

“I can write the saddest poem of all tonight. I loved her, and sometimes she loved me too.”
― Pablo Neruda

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Got five minutes to throw down a few thoughts that some will use to try to make sense of the words above.

If you don't know you won't know whether the quotes above are shared in anger or happiness, in hope or despair.

And that is ok because sometimes they are the flip side of the same coin. There is no light without darkness and no joy without tears.

It is only when you know the other that you can appreciate the opposite. When you have embraced the darkness and worn its shadow as a cloak you also know how to walk under a sun that warms your heart and heats your soul like no other.

The smile that comes may bring lines but that is the price of wisdom and it is a price worth paying.

So those who dare to stir the ashes of the past would understand that sometimes you wear some dirt on your cheek and sometimes you find the sparks of a fire that never burnt out.

And that flame burns brightest of all.

Something Worth Thinking About

Sometimes you write something and you feel good about it because it is well written and sometimes it is because you caught lightning in a bottle.

Not sure if this qualifies by either one of those metrics, but there is something there that makes me think it is worth reading again.

Need to think about it, maybe flesh it out in a longer piece.

Trolls

Every now and then I find trolls haunting my blogs. Some of them leave offensive comments and forget that their IP addresses make it clear who they are.

Sometimes they make the mistake of visiting from their offices or schools and I am able to return their favor by taking screenshots of their visits and sending those to the appropriate parties on the other end.

Most of the time that is not an issue, I just block the IP and they go away. There are better uses of their time.

Is It Gaming The System

Is is gaming the system to use this blog to try and build links and relevance? Beats me and I am not entirely sure how effective it is, but I don't think it is hurting anything either.

So here are 37 links to material some posts, some of which are even worth reading.

1. What Kind Of Father Are You?
2. I Found You Again
3. Spirits Of The Future Or Shades Of The Past
4. Experience The Joys Of Blog Maintenance
5. Bad Things Happen When You Get Bored With Blogging
6. Dads & Daughters Are Different
7. How To Make Hard Decisions Easier
8. What Is Your Mission For 2015?
9. Would You Put Your Life On Slideshare?
10. This Post Won’t Inspire You Unless You’re…
11. The Fifty Posts You Didn’t Read On New Year’s Eve
12. Do You Read The Blogs You Follow?
13. Fourteen Years Later He’s Looking For Better Advice
14. Do Mom & Dad Bloggers Make Better Family?
15. It’s The Kind Of Life We Should Live
16. Men Use Pinterest Too
17. Is It Legal To Murder Santa Claus?
18. Sometimes Dad’s Just Don’t Know
19. It Is The End Of The Beginning
20. Bloggers Need The Write Stuff
21. Success Is More About Effort Than Luck
22. He Named His Intention Texas
23. What’s Your Story?
24. Writing, Ranches & Relationships
25. Hunger Does Strange Things To Men
26. A Letter To Grandpa
27. How Big Is The Space You Work In?
28. Is There Such A Thing As Too Many Gifts?
29. Outlines Kill Blogs, People & Aliens
30. How A Big P**** Helps Bloggers
31. When Gratitude Goes AWOL
32. Cancel Christmas Because I Beat Up Santa Claus
33. The Lonely Blogger
34. The Art Of Blogging & Bad Meatloaf
35. How Bad Bloggers Make Good Bloggers Sexier
36. Why You Should Never Blog About Sex With Clergy Members
37. Contradictions

Not Every Post is Perfect

Some people tell me they don't publish many posts because they aren't perfect but I don't cotton to that way of thinking.

If we are not talking about something I am being paid to write I believe in publishing virtually everything. It is part of how I train and work on improving.

Not everything is going to be perfect, ideally most will be error free or close to it. But they won't always be as eloquent or as polished as I want.

Sometimes I publish posts that I am less happy with because it is important to me to get some thoughts written down on paper and because it helps me figure out what I am thinking.

Sometimes the rambling leads me to a second or third post that says things in the way I want them to read and that is ok with me.

And now some links:

1. Spirits Of The Future Or Shades Of The Past
2. Experience The Joys Of Blog Maintenance
3. Bad Things Happen When You Get Bored With Blogging
4. Dads & Daughters Are Different
5. How To Make Hard Decisions Easier
6. What Is Your Mission For 2015?
7. Would You Put Your Life On Slideshare?
8. This Post Won’t Inspire You Unless You’re…
9. The Fifty Posts You Didn’t Read On New Year’s Eve
10. Do You Read The Blogs You Follow?
11. Fourteen Years Later He’s Looking For Better Advice
12. Do Mom & Dad Bloggers Make Better Family?
13. It’s The Kind Of Life We Should Live
14. Men Use Pinterest Too
15. Is It Legal To Murder Santa Claus?
16. Sometimes Dad’s Just Don’t Know
17. It Is The End Of The Beginning
18. Bloggers Need The Write Stuff
19. Success Is More About Effort Than Luck
20. He Named His Intention Texas
21. What’s Your Story?
22. Writing, Ranches & Relationships
23. Hunger Does Strange Things To Men
24. A Letter To Grandpa
25. How Big Is The Space You Work In?
26. Is There Such A Thing As Too Many Gifts?
27. Outlines Kill Blogs, People & Aliens

Something Different

I just surprised myself and submitted an application to be a writer for a ethnic newspaper in a place I used to live.

Not sure they'll be interested because my background might confuse them. Not sure they'll be able to pay me enough to make it worthwhile.

Did it because I needed to do something different.

The Most Important Post For The New Year

I keep reading Those Three Words and thinking it is one of the most important posts I have written and how appropriate it is for the new year.

I am better than I used to be at telling the people who mean something to me how I feel but I am still not particularly good at it.

It is not natural for me. You won't know it from blogging but I am relatively stoic in person. I am not the guy who volunteers my feelings very often.

But I am working on it because I have seen the opportunity disappear one time too many.

Other posts you might want to read

• This Post Won’t Inspire You Unless You’re…
• The Fifty Posts You Didn’t Read On New Year’s Eve
• Do You Read The Blogs You Follow?
• Fourteen Years Later He’s Looking For Better Advice
• Do Mom & Dad Bloggers Make Better Family?