We have also made a point of teaching them about the value that they have as people and instructing them so that they have understand their place in the world. One of the things that we do without fail is bless them.
In English the words are as follows:
For a son:
May G-d make you like Efraim and Menashe.
For a daughter:
May G-d make you like Sarah, Rivka, Rachel, and Leah.
May G-d bless you and protect you. May G-d cause His face to shine upon you and be gracious to you. May G-d raise His face to you and establish peace for you.
I find this moment to be exceptionally meaningful and it is something that I look forward to all week. My children are the finest thing I have ever done in my life and I want them to feel special and to know how special they are to me. I hope that this is something that they learn to treasure as much as I do.
And I suppose that you can call it selfish, but whenever it is that I die I hope that this is something that they miss but at the same time I want for them to be able to call upon this moment whenever times are hard.
At 7, 13, 40 or 105 when they feel stressed I want them to be able to go to this moment and to feel the strength, comfort and safety of a parent's love and to be able to draw strength from it.