Sex And Blogging- My 'R' Rated Post Woohoo

You know I really shouldn't be surprised at the number of blog entries throughout this vast blogosphere that are about sex. There are literally thousands upon thousands in which people describe their conquests, fantasies, fears and illusions.

Now maybe I am becoming a cranky old man, I do aspire to be the neighborhood curmudgeon, but I have a couple of random questions/statements to make.

In my travels throughout cyberspace I have stumbled across a number of blogs in which the authors are not just talking about sex, but bragging about their skills. I find that kind of funny for a number of reasons.

  1. Back in the day when I was a wee lad you never heard women speak about sex, at least not in my neighborhood. It wasn't until college that I heard women speak about what they really wanted and it was real eye opener for me.
  2. I laugh at the number of female bloggers who brag about their oral sex ability. The posts that I have seen always include a hearty promotion of their ability at giving it as if no one else was capable of being so skillful.
  3. Many of the men write about being such amazing lovers that they were literally beating the women off with sticks.
In short, I have rarely seen posts that strike me as being real life experiences in which people admit to having bad experiences where the sex was fair or terrible and or including their participation as being the reason it was bad.

Because the reality is that even though people are sexual beings there are all sorts of factors that go into good sex and what feels good to one person may not translate to another.

If we are going to share this kind of intimate detail about ourselves it might actually be more interesting and more fun to read about the bad experiences than the good ones.

4 comments:

Politically Homeless said...

Ok Jack, you go first! Actually, thats a good idea, and you're right. People will write of their shortcomings/bad experiences in other areas but not the bedroom. You'd think the world was full of super-lovers.

I'll have to think about this one. Maybe a post idea in there somewhere.

Good post!

Jack Steiner said...

Brian,

I admit to having several stories, but I am not sure yet if I am willing to share them here.

It is a question of how graphic I wish to be.

Jack Steiner said...

I don't know if I agree with that, it can be pretty disappointing.

Stacey said...

I have only had one really lame lover in my life. Funny thing is that I was sure he would be amazing. He came in 2nd for "Mr. Indiana University" my junior year in college. He was in my 8:00 physics class. I just had to have him. And I did. And it was so completely lame, I still can't believe it.

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