January 27, 2015

Sometimes You Just Know

“I no longer believed in the idea of soul mates, or love at first sight. But I was beginning to believe that a very few times in your life, if you were lucky, you might meet someone who was exactly right for you. Not because he was perfect, or because you were, but because your combined flaws were arranged in a way that allowed two separate beings to hinge together.”
― Lisa Kleypas, Blue-Eyed Devil

“The meeting of two personalities is like the contact of two chemical substances: if there is any reaction, both are transformed.”
― C.G. Jung

“You can talk with someone for years, everyday, and still, it won't mean as much as what you can have when you sit in front of someone, not saying a word, yet you feel that person with your heart, you feel like you have known the person for forever.... connections are made with the heart, not the tongue.”
― C. JoyBell C.

“We’re all seeking that special person who is right for us. But if you’ve been through enough relationships, you begin to suspect there’s no right person, just different flavors of wrong. Why is this? Because you yourself are wrong in some way, and you seek out partners who are wrong in some complementary way. But it takes a lot of living to grow fully into your own wrongness. And it isn’t until you finally run up against your deepest demons, your unsolvable problems—the ones that make you truly who you are—that we’re ready to find a lifelong mate. Only then do you finally know what you’re looking for. You’re looking for the wrong person. But not just any wrong person: the right wrong person—someone you lovingly gaze upon and think, “This is the problem I want to have.”

I will find that special person who is wrong for me in just the right way.

Let our scars fall in love.”
― Andrew Boyd

“Well, it seems to me that the best relationships - the ones that last - are frequently the ones that are rooted in friendship. You know, one day you look at the person and you see something more than you did the night before. Like a switch has been flicked somewhere. And the person who was just a friend is... suddenly the only person you can ever imagine yourself with.”
― Gillian Anderson

“Come sleep with me: We won't make Love,Love will make us.”
― Julio Cortázar

“Lots of things can be fixed. Things can be fixed. But many times, relationships between people cannot be fixed, because they should not be fixed. You're aboard a ship setting sail, and the other person has joined the inland circus, or is boarding a different ship, and you just can't be with each other anymore. Because you shouldn't be.”
― C. JoyBell C.

“I love you without knowing how, or when, or from where. I love you simply, without problems or pride: I love you in this way because I do not know any other way of loving but this, in which there is no I or you, so intimate that your hand upon my chest is my hand, so intimate that when I fall asleep your eyes close.”
― Pablo Neruda, 100 Love Sonnets

“Tonight I can write the saddest lines
I loved her, and sometimes she loved me too.”
― Pablo Neruda, Twenty Love Poems and a Song of Despair

“so I wait for you like a lonely house
till you will see me again and live in me.
Till then my windows ache.”
― Pablo Neruda, 100 Love Sonnets

“I can write the saddest poem of all tonight. I loved her, and sometimes she loved me too.”
― Pablo Neruda

Got five minutes to throw down a few thoughts that some will use to try to make sense of the words above.

If you don't know you won't know whether the quotes above are shared in anger or happiness, in hope or despair.

And that is ok because sometimes they are the flip side of the same coin. There is no light without darkness and no joy without tears.

It is only when you know the other that you can appreciate the opposite. When you have embraced the darkness and worn its shadow as a cloak you also know how to walk under a sun that warms your heart and heats your soul like no other.

The smile that comes may bring lines but that is the price of wisdom and it is a price worth paying.

So those who dare to stir the ashes of the past would understand that sometimes you wear some dirt on your cheek and sometimes you find the sparks of a fire that never burnt out.

And that flame burns brightest of all.

January 21, 2015

Something Worth Thinking About

Sometimes you write something and you feel good about it because it is well written and sometimes it is because you caught lightning in a bottle.

Not sure if this qualifies by either one of those metrics, but there is something there that makes me think it is worth reading again.

Need to think about it, maybe flesh it out in a longer piece.

January 20, 2015


Every now and then I find trolls haunting my blogs. Some of them leave offensive comments and forget that their IP addresses make it clear who they are.

Sometimes they make the mistake of visiting from their offices or schools and I am able to return their favor by taking screenshots of their visits and sending those to the appropriate parties on the other end.

Most of the time that is not an issue, I just block the IP and they go away. There are better uses of their time.

January 12, 2015

Is It Gaming The System

Is is gaming the system to use this blog to try and build links and relevance? Beats me and I am not entirely sure how effective it is, but I don't think it is hurting anything either.

So here are 37 links to material some posts, some of which are even worth reading.

  1. What Kind Of Father Are You?
  2. I Found You Again
  3. Spirits Of The Future Or Shades Of The Past
  4. Experience The Joys Of Blog Maintenance
  5. Bad Things Happen When You Get Bored With Blogging
  6. Dads & Daughters Are Different
  7. How To Make Hard Decisions Easier
  8. What Is Your Mission For 2015?
  9. Would You Put Your Life On Slideshare?
  10. This Post Won’t Inspire You Unless You’re…
  11. The Fifty Posts You Didn’t Read On New Year’s Eve
  12. Do You Read The Blogs You Follow?
  13. Fourteen Years Later He’s Looking For Better Advice
  14. Do Mom & Dad Bloggers Make Better Family?
  15. It’s The Kind Of Life We Should Live
  16. Men Use Pinterest Too
  17. Is It Legal To Murder Santa Claus?
  18. Sometimes Dad’s Just Don’t Know
  19. It Is The End Of The Beginning
  20. Bloggers Need The Write Stuff
  21. Success Is More About Effort Than Luck
  22. He Named His Intention Texas
  23. What’s Your Story?
  24. Writing, Ranches & Relationships
  25. Hunger Does Strange Things To Men
  26. A Letter To Grandpa
  27. How Big Is The Space You Work In?
  28. Is There Such A Thing As Too Many Gifts?
  29. Outlines Kill Blogs, People & Aliens
  30. How A Big P**** Helps Bloggers
  31. When Gratitude Goes AWOL
  32. Cancel Christmas Because I Beat Up Santa Claus
  33. The Lonely Blogger
  34. The Art Of Blogging & Bad Meatloaf
  35. How Bad Bloggers Make Good Bloggers Sexier
  36. Why You Should Never Blog About Sex With Clergy Members
  37. Contradictions