tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7082887.post4246025343509617356..comments2023-10-30T07:39:04.857-07:00Comments on Random Thoughts- Do They Have Meaning?: A Good FatherJack Steinerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16625864271071630940noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7082887.post-42496328129616183512009-01-31T08:21:00.000-08:002009-01-31T08:21:00.000-08:00Hi Shira,I agree. If you don't give your children ...Hi Shira,<BR/><BR/>I agree. If you don't give your children the skills to survive without you they're going to be in real trouble.Jack Steinerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16625864271071630940noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7082887.post-1496566882615098972009-01-29T07:49:00.000-08:002009-01-29T07:49:00.000-08:00"the most important part of being a good father is..."the most important part of being a good father is giving your children the tools to live a good life." I'm a very "tachlis"-oriented person, very oriented toward the basic practicalities. I've always thought it essential to raise children to become adults, not perpetual children. To bring your laundry home because you happen to be coming home anyway is one thing. To bring an entire semester's laundry home because you don't know how to do laundry is another. By the time our son left for college, he knew how to do laundry, clean an apartment (yes, including scrubbing the john/VC/lieu/loo or whatever term you use), and do basic cooking and mending. It never ceases to amaze me that some people actually send their kids off to college totally unprepared to care for themselves.<BR/><BR/>On the other hand, I think other folks have done or are doing a better job than we did with the more philosophical issues and/or other coping skills. You seem to have a better handle on that, and your children will benefit from your "life lessons."Shira Salamonehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15989302669175887512noreply@blogger.com