tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7082887.post116122739367045745..comments2023-10-30T07:39:04.857-07:00Comments on Random Thoughts- Do They Have Meaning?: Blogging Can Help You Make/Lose FriendsJack Steinerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16625864271071630940noreply@blogger.comBlogger17125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7082887.post-1161584940503841472006-10-22T23:29:00.000-07:002006-10-22T23:29:00.000-07:00Chana,I had noticed that you suddenly disappeared....Chana,<BR/><BR/>I had noticed that you suddenly disappeared. Welcome back.<BR/><BR/><I>What is this Harrumph that you speak of?</I><BR/><BR/>A very large mammal.<BR/><BR/><I>It's a comfort thing but when is it ok to go beyond that such as emailing or imming them? Is it appropriate?</I><BR/><BR/>That is pretty subjective. Really a question that can only be answered on a case by case basis. If both parties are comfortable, what is the harm.Jack Steinerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16625864271071630940noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7082887.post-1161581805351236692006-10-22T22:36:00.000-07:002006-10-22T22:36:00.000-07:00I once wrote a post about what are the etiequette ...I once wrote a post about what are the etiequette rules of blogging - specifically, when you feel like you have develop a rapport with a blogger, based mostly on the fact that you are a frequent visitor to their blog and/or comment to them through other people's blogs. <BR/><BR/> It's a comfort thing but when is it ok to go beyond that such as emailing or imming them? Is it appropriate?... Is the Window to Our Soulhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04510255608269038123noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7082887.post-1161542375685832682006-10-22T11:39:00.000-07:002006-10-22T11:39:00.000-07:00HarrumphWhat is this Harrumph that you speak of?Harrumph<BR/><BR/>What is this Harrumph that you speak of?PsychoToddlerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00874353280798371891noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7082887.post-1161536096000862102006-10-22T09:54:00.000-07:002006-10-22T09:54:00.000-07:00I don't post enough, or have enough of a readershi...I don't post enough, or have enough of a readership, for my blog to have jumped the shark. (I don't think, LOL)<BR/><BR/>Plus I have been AWOL from J-blogland lately because of personal stuff... nothing horrible... just stuff distracting me IRL. But yes, over the last ~6 months I've been blogging there have been blogs I've stopped reading because I lost interest in them.have popcorn will lurkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03200484265589054583noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7082887.post-1161497747304717292006-10-21T23:15:00.000-07:002006-10-21T23:15:00.000-07:00Robbie,There are some blogs that I frequent becaus...Robbie,<BR/><BR/>There are some blogs that I frequent because I am curious to see just how outrageous they get.<BR/><BR/>HOH,<BR/><BR/>I understand. It is hard when the outlet becomes restrictive.<BR/><BR/>MNJ/Datingmaster,<BR/><BR/>:)<BR/><BR/>Z,<BR/><BR/>It is one of those things that you never really know without testing.<BR/><BR/>Miriam,<BR/><BR/>It is a good thing that you are in Texas and I am here. ;)<BR/><BR/>I'd like to say that I ignore the trolls, but I don't. I spend too much time arguing with them.<BR/><BR/>Ezzie,<BR/><BR/>What bothers me about some blogs is knowing that they truly believe some of the crap that they are espousing.<BR/><BR/><I>In a way it is like going all the way with a girl before you date. You get real close real fast but some of the normal social rules get forgotten or simply made up in our imagination. </I><BR/><BR/>Very true.<BR/><BR/>Elie,<BR/><BR/>I can be fairly reserved in person too.<BR/><BR/>CM,<BR/><BR/>Let it all hang out. Ooops, you do, don't you. ;)<BR/><BR/>M,<BR/><BR/>I try.<BR/><BR/><I>Get out and represent!</I><BR/><BR/>Harrumph.<BR/><BR/><I>I am not a good friend in general. I </I><BR/><I>I just don't like small talk.</I><BR/><BR/>Your bedside manner must be great. ;)Jack Steinerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16625864271071630940noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7082887.post-1161352946230067812006-10-20T07:02:00.000-07:002006-10-20T07:02:00.000-07:00Re: Targeted Socializing (TM)I had a discussion wi...Re: Targeted Socializing (TM)<BR/><BR/>I had a discussion with someone recently about this. I am not a good friend in general. I don't keep in touch with people. I was inseparable from my College roommate, and yet I've spoken to him only a handful of times in the past 15 years.<BR/><BR/>I just don't like small talk. I can't pick up a phone and jabber on about nothing (I can, actually, if pressed, but I would never do it voluntarily).<BR/><BR/>But blogging gives us a common frame of reference. Things both participants in the conversation are interested in. So there's what to discuss.<BR/><BR/>If, lets say, my roommate made a blog in which he wrote about nothing but Karate, I still wouldn't read it, though. It's not just the commonality of blogging that brings us together. We share common interests that blogging helps us focus on.PsychoToddlerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00874353280798371891noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7082887.post-1161352665359528502006-10-20T06:57:00.000-07:002006-10-20T06:57:00.000-07:00Here's where I think the blogosphere can be a forc...Here's where I think the blogosphere can be a force for world peace. If you frequent a blog, comment on it, enjoy it, let the author know that you enjoy it, participate in the general activites there, and then they suddenly write something that completely offends you...you could I guess just stop reading.<BR/><BR/>Or you could call them on it, write a respectful but firm comment about why what they wrote offends you, and how it's not just an empty rant into the ether of the internet, but something which hurt you, a real live human being that the blog readers have come to know, if not in the flesh, then in spirit at least.<BR/><BR/>And they will either stop, think, maybe factor you into their opinion, maybe change.<BR/><BR/>Or just flame you. Either way, what have you got to lose? Get out and represent!PsychoToddlerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00874353280798371891noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7082887.post-1161352533751065412006-10-20T06:55:00.000-07:002006-10-20T06:55:00.000-07:00cruisin you got guts...you go girl...cruisin you got guts...you go girl...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7082887.post-1161352435935410242006-10-20T06:53:00.000-07:002006-10-20T06:53:00.000-07:00i like smart and i like funny...don't always like ...i like smart and i like funny...don't always like a wiseass...oops can i say that here? shabbat shalom...whatever they say about you jack you are not boring...stay safeAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7082887.post-1161310617610006452006-10-19T19:16:00.000-07:002006-10-19T19:16:00.000-07:00I'm not a good one to ask...heck, I blog about col...I'm not a good one to ask...heck, I blog about colonoscopies and hot flashes...now that's a great way to make fast friends, don't cha think?cruisin-momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16640061323519954002noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7082887.post-1161309640870739332006-10-19T19:00:00.000-07:002006-10-19T19:00:00.000-07:00I definitely find that I can share faster and more...I definitely find that I can share faster and more in the blog than I can in "real-life", even though my blog is 100% non-anonymous. I'm much more reserved in person than in writing.Eliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15979263918394127210noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7082887.post-1161286069081753262006-10-19T12:27:00.000-07:002006-10-19T12:27:00.000-07:00I like the statement "natural rhythm and pace of i...I like the statement "natural rhythm and pace of information exchange between people is accelerated". <BR/><BR/>Very true.<BR/><BR/>In a way it is like going all the way with a girl before you date. You get real close real fast but some of the normal social rules get forgotten or simply made up in our imagination. <BR/><BR/>Nice post.<BR/><BR/>Take Care<BR/>MichaelMichaelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17502248241093670156noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7082887.post-1161264884162169612006-10-19T06:34:00.000-07:002006-10-19T06:34:00.000-07:00Definitely. I still keep tabs on such blogs, to se...Definitely. I still keep tabs on such blogs, to see what they say - especially in regards to me, when I've seen people write things that were completely false or misconstrued.<BR/><BR/>In general, I think you can get an idea of what a person's like rather quickly based on what they write, partially because of that 'accelerated' exchange. To date, every blogger I've met (and there have been *many*) has been pretty much what I 'expected'. Heck, some of them even look exactly as I expected.<BR/><BR/>But I have seen a number of blogs - especially a couple of specific ones - that have been extremely nasty and disgusting, espousing sick points of view. The sick POV don't bother me as much as the way they make their points, completely denigrating others and (on occasion) twisting their opinions or making up outright falsehoods. It's really sad.Ezziehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12494592434522239195noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7082887.post-1161263959591190192006-10-19T06:19:00.000-07:002006-10-19T06:19:00.000-07:00I've had mostly positive experiences with the blog...I've had mostly positive experiences with the blog as social discourse, and even with transitioning from blog-connection to real-life: Meeting David Bogner (Treppenwitz) in Jerusalem, for instance. There is a short list of bloggers I would like to get to know for real... watch out, Jack, you're on the list.<BR/><BR/>To me, the main problem with blogging is not the regular readers, but the blog-hopping trolls that seem to randomly pick some blog to screw up. Hope its not mine next. (Do I have to make an offering to the blog gods?)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7082887.post-1161260754385536152006-10-19T05:25:00.000-07:002006-10-19T05:25:00.000-07:00I try to blogroll my daily reads if only to rememb...I try to blogroll my daily reads if only to remember to go there daily (getting old is a bitch for real!) I wouldn't say that any of my blog friends and I would get along in person but I sure would miss them if they went away.Ima Undercoverhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00542834320265531669noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7082887.post-1161259548001894132006-10-19T05:05:00.000-07:002006-10-19T05:05:00.000-07:00You are right that we make new connections with pe...You are right that we make new connections with people we would otherwise nort meet principally because of geographical constraints. I wouldn't go so far as to call the relationship "friends".<BR/>ps I reopened my blog because I enjoy the quality feedback from people like you.Happy Hubandhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05368400425230137765noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7082887.post-1161253941059536462006-10-19T03:32:00.000-07:002006-10-19T03:32:00.000-07:00There are some I've abandoned, but more often than...There are some I've abandoned, but more often than not I stick around to see what they're going to say next, and just how offensive they can get.<BR/><BR/>Another interesting thing to me is that I know I have readers who won't blogroll me because of my content (they'd rather not be associated with my type of humor, I suppose) but they're loyal readers - at least they tell me so through email.Robbiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14332398432260922008noreply@blogger.com